10 HABITS OF SUCCESSFUL INTROVERTS

by on Jun 10, 2017 - 9 min read
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What do Barack Obama, J.K. Rowling, and Audrey Hepburn all have in common? They are considered to be people with introverted personality types, often perceived as shy or socially awkward, but really full of extraordinary talent and abilities. While extroverts are defined by their outgoing natures and more readable dispositions, introverts prefer to keep to themselves and think carefully before acting and interacting.

The misconception is that introverts don't like people or that they aren't good at socializing with otherswhich is not the case. The main difference between the two personality types is simple: extroverts tend to thrive more on interactions with people and in some ways need them to be happy and successful. On the other hand, introverts usually do not require energy and inspiration from anyone; rather, they find it within themselves more often than not.

    These deep-thinking do-gooders have many qualities that make them perfect for leadership, success, and power, and here are just a few of them.

    1. They look before they leap.
    Planners that they are, introverts make an effort to understand how things work before making any rash decisions, so that when they do make a plan, its well-informed and thought out.

    2. They form deep, meaningful relationships.
    Although introverts aren't necessarily social butterflies, they do tend to form very solid relationships with a select group of people. While they are able to get along with others in general, it's the deeper bonds they form that make people trust them more implicitlywhich motivates those around them to follow their lead.

    3. They can work independently to get things done.
    While very capable working with a team, introverts often work best when left to their own devices. This quality makes them very valuable in professional environments, because they are self-driven and don't need to have their hands held, which is one reason why they tend to rise quickly in their careers. J.K. Rowling, author of the Harry Potter book series and self-proclaimed introvert, was quiet and shy growing up but started writing her thoughts and ideas down at the age of 6. When she hit it big, she did it by applying her talent and creativity without much help from anyone else.

    4. They take the time to appreciate things.
    Introverts are very good at differentiating between what's really worth their time and things that are just better to let go of. This ability to hone in on the positive means that they know when to cultivate something that has promise, usually resulting in a great outcome.

    5. They are actually great public speakers.
    Often perceived as being very shy, introverts actually do well speaking in public or to large groups because they tend to arrive very prepared, with a well-researched speech or presentation. When they are speaking about something they're particularly passionate or knowledgable about, it translates noticeably in their delivery. Barack Obama is frequently cited as an introvert, and it has certainly helped, not harmed him, when it comes to speaking publicly.

    6. They help foster a team environment.
    Introverts often work better with groups because they are good listeners, and this openness to compromise is beneficial in a group setting. Oftentimes, leaders who are overly extroverted can inadvertently steamroll people who aren't as outgoing or willing to speak up.

    7. They are able to keep their emotions in check.
    Because introverts aren't always as outwardly expressive about their feelings, they are more likely to evaluate these feelings alone, giving themselves time to sort out everything privately before addressing the issue publicly. This means there is less chance that they will explode or get outwardly upset at others; instead, they are often a calming presence during conflict.

    8. They are OK with thinking and working outside the box.
    They are not as concerned about following what other people are doing, and because of this, they are more willing to try out new, creative, and original ideaseven if they seem left of field or risky at first. Mark Zuckerberg, founder of Facebook, is a prime example of someone considered to be an introvert who took a different idea and made it into something extremely successful.

    9. They know when to call it quits.
    Introverts are very in tune with their needs. They will push themselves to their limits, but they avoid letting it get out of control. If they feel like they have exhausted all their resources on something and have given it their best effort, then they are capable of letting it go and pursuing another solution with an equal amount of effort.

    10. They make their own happiness.
    It's a difficult thing to find happiness when you seek it in other peoplethey can be unreliable or unaware of their responsibility to you. Introverts like to make their own happiness so that they have control over it. Audrey Hepburn called herself an introvert saying, "I love being by myself, love being outdoors, love taking a long walk with my dogs and looking at the trees, flowers, the sky." Like many introverts, she knew exactly where her happiness could be found.

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Why Being an Introvert Is Actually the Biggest Blessing

Society doesn't want you to be alone.

If you're alone, that means you're too shy. If you're alone, that means you don't have enough friends. If you're alone, that means the rest of us should feel bad for you, because you have no one to talk to and you probably have, like, 29 cats and three bottles of hard alcohol in your house.

It is however not bad to be alone. Why? Because its good for you.

For a second, ignore all the memes implying how lame it is to stay in on Friday nights, the TV and wine jokes that invade casual conversation, the inquiries from your co-workers about your big plans for the weekend. Sometimes, no plans are the best plans. Sometimes, hanging out with yourself is the most gratifying way to pass a Saturday. As an introvert, this is something I can attest to.

Fundamentally, our natural introverted tendencies conflict with cultures idea of how we should carry ourselves outside of the working hour. My favorite thing to do after coming home from work everyday is read a book, peruse the Internet, or watch Zeeworld or M Movies on the dish.

I love sitting on my own, with my book or my Phantom Tablet. Many a time, people would ask me can I come sit with you and my reply would be Im busy right now. Yeah I know thats pretty annoying but I just cant help it.

I cherish loneliness (but not for the rest of my life of course, this babe wants to have lovely children but she cant do it alone can she? She would require a companion but till then, Ill stay in loneliness), I bathe in it. Make no mistakeI fully understand the importance of maintaining human relations. I simply dont think our entire existence should hinge on it.

Thought I may be introverted, I still actively keep in communication with friends and loved ones. I discuss with friends on an important topic but stay a bit away. Yes Im that shy. But when I write, I let the inner demon loose. Its as if it isnt me anymore, the real me appears. I love sitting alone, I dont like complaining

Throughout the years, I've learned to simply brush if it off when someone makes fun of me or looks down on me for my choice lack of companionship, but honestly? I shouldn't have to. As a whole, society could learn to be a bit more accepting of the lone wolves, because not everyone needs a pack to feel content. Anyway, there are about a million other things we can shift our concerns to, no?

Becoming aware of the bountiful benefits of spending time by yourself is the first step in educating the public. Being alone clears your mind, increases creativity, makes you work harder, and can even aid in getting rid of depression, especially in teens.

The biggest misconception of all? That alone means lonely.

"Although alone and lonely are often thought of as being one in the same, alone doesn't equal loneliness," writes psychiatrist Abigail Brenner in a thoughtful piece for Psychologist Today. "Learning to be alone may be initially scary, but once mastered serves as the cornerstone for your development and growth as a human being. There's so much to be gained from learning to rely, and more importantly, to trust your own inner voice as the best source for your own guidance."

And thats just itIm able to deal with my own thoughts, which I believe is something many people arent capable of. Im able to cultivate my independence, count on myself for anything and everything (including a good time!), and consciously reflect on my emotions and mental state. When people pity me for the time I spend alone, I find myself feeling a little sorry for them, because they dont understand what it takes to uphold a healthy relationship with the self. Without a doubt, its one of the most important connections to preserve. In the end, I dont need to defend my well-being when typing on my phone and laughing with myself or in the company of my book and my book alone. Im happy.



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